I love my husband. Until recently though, I didn’t really know what it means to love. When you’re young, you’re so blind to the realities of marriage, and life. It’s only when that love is tried, that you can truly put it into action.
Over the last year, God has been working in my heart, and revealing ways that I was not loving my husband the way He intended. I was seeking after a selfish love. I was looking for what I could get out of marriage. I was looking around at all the things I needed, when in fact, I am not in a marriage to be served, but to serve.
Isn’t that what Jesus did? He didn’t look around, waiting on everybody else to give Him what He needed. He was preparing Himself to die on the cross, but washed the disciples’ feet!
It may look different for every marriage, but I encourage you wives, to take a look at your marriage. Are you unhappy? If so, why? Is it because you’re looking at what you need him to do? Have you taken any thought of what YOU can do?
I hate laundry. I hate sweeping. Of course, those are the two things most important to my husband when it comes to cleaning! I found myself doing housework, and getting absolutely everything done, except those things. I would be pleased with what was done, and wonder why Tyler would get frustrated that I didn’t get to the laundry. I would be washing the dishes, in the middle of cleaning up dinner, and he would talk about all the crumbs on the floor!
Talk about annoyed… this was me. One day, something clicked – what if I put those things first? What if I put his wants and needs above my own?
This is a small, silly example, but I started applying that to all different areas of marriage. A lot of times I have said, “I love you.” but in my heart I was selfish. I spoke words with my mouth, but my actions suggested otherwise. Maybe there’s something you can do today, to show your husband that you’re putting his desires above your own. What could that do for your marriage?
“…to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands…” Titus 2:4-5 KJV
This is not a popular subject today, but this is Biblical. There aren’t many scriptures specifically directed at women, so when I see those in the Bible, I like to get to the root of what it means. …”to love their husbands.” How can I love him? To start, by simply putting his needs above my own. I have by no means perfected this, and I fail daily, but I pray I will grow more with each opportunity.
Thank you so much for reading! I hope this can be a help to some young wives (just like me) out there.
Mykaela Blue 